What is separation anxiety?
And how to help your child through it.
Separation anxiety is something many parents face, especially in the early years. It can feel overwhelming when your child clings to you, cries at drop-off, or struggles to settle without you. The good news is this is a normal stage of development, and with the right support, your child can find their way through it.
At WayMaker, we believe play and connection are powerful tools for helping children feel safe. That’s why we’ve created resources like our Little Bear Finds His Way animation and the comforting Small Bear companion, to guide families through big feelings with gentleness and hope.
What is Child Separation Anxiety?
Separation anxiety is the distress a child feels when separated from their primary caregiver. It often appears around 8–18 months but can resurface during transitions such as starting nursery, school, or after big changes in family life.
Signs may include:
Tears or distress when you leave
Difficulty settling with other adults
Clinginess at bedtime
Worry about being apart from you
It’s important to remember: separation anxiety is not misbehaviour. It’s a child’s way of saying, “I’m not sure I’m safe without you yet.”
How to Help a Child with Separation Anxiety
Supporting your child through separation anxiety begins with empathy and consistency. Here are some gentle strategies you can try:
Name the Feeling
Let your child know it’s okay to feel sad or worried when you leave. Try saying:
"I know it’s hard when Mummy goes to work. You feel sad because you’ll miss me. And I always come back."Create a Goodbye Ritual
A special wave, a hug, or a phrase like, “See you soon, Little Bear!” gives comfort and predictability.Keep Goodbyes Short
Lingering can increase anxiety. Offer reassurance, then leave confidently so your child learns they are safe.Introduce Transitional Objects
A soft toy, like our Small Bear, can hold your love when you’re not there. It becomes a bridge between you and your child.Use Play and Storytelling
Children make sense of the world through play. That’s why Little Bear Finds His Way was created—to show children that even when they feel lost or worried, they can find safety again. Watching together gives a shared language for big feelings.
A Gentle Reminder for Parents
Separation anxiety won’t last forever. With patience, consistency, and reassurance, children grow in confidence and trust. Your calm presence makes all the difference.
If you’d like extra support, explore our Little Bear animations and Small Bear companion, designed to help families through these tender moments.